Should I stay or should I go?

This is a question that many of us grapple with: Should I stay or should I go? Each of us has unique circumstances that prompt this introspection. When is the right time to exit a relationship? Should we wait until something unforgivable occurs? Since every situation is distinct, I can't provide a definitive answer for when to leave. However, I can share insights drawn from my own experiences as I navigate these challenges.

I began dating this man in August of 2023, he was charming, southern, loved similar things as I, had a child (which I have not experienced in prior relationships) but was open and ready to one day meet her when the timing was right. I knew with the way he talked about his daughter & all the things we had in common, that my parents would love him. Our fondness grew with each other over the next few months, and I ended up moving in with him. 

Like most relationships, you do not really see the true character of the person until you are invested and that is when I found out. 

Alcohol should only be drank in moderation, not two at a time and not from when you get home from work until you go to bed. 

I don't have an issue with anyone who drinks alcohol, I myself have a drink every now and then, but not like he does. I cannot find myself to enjoy a glass of wine, or one bottle of Hard Cider like I used too, only because of his behavior when he drinks, I have to be around happy people if I have a glass. 

Emotional & Verbal Abuse is just as equal to physical. It takes a toll on your body & mind, de-values you as a person, interrupts your daily life and you lose yourself. You are then made to feel as if everything going wrong is your fault. You know if you defend yourself in a conversation that it will only escalate the issue because its your fault and he takes no responsibility for his actions. 

I never knew that I would allow a man to make me feel like this. 

Feeling as though I would rather stay quiet than entertain an argument, because let's be honest, THAT is what he is looking for. 

So I started to use this to my advantage. Staying Quiet. Upon realizing this, I have started doing things for me for once. I am the type of person who will go above and beyond for someone I love, I give 10,000% in a relationship. I am still this person, but I am no longer in love with this man. So I stay quiet. I have, since new years eve been planning my departure. Getting all my affairs in order, as they say, banking, work, living arrangements, transportation. All the basics. I have everything taken care of up to this point, with the exception of Transportation. I will be staying with the company I currenlty work for and Transferring to a new location. Closer to family, friends and an all around better environment. 

My family is in full support of my decision. I know a lot of people do not have that support system and that is a big part in me doing this blog. I aim to be a support system to those who don't have one. Trust in me and this process. I am also trusting the process as we speak, because this is happening in real time. 

I will update daily as this progresses.